The 12 Thrive Days of Christmas – Day 12 – Thriving
A series of 12 brief articles, published daily from 25th December to 5th January (The traditional 12 days of Christmas. Today – Thriving.
PACE and Thriving
Over the past 11 days we have looked at outlines of many aspects of The Thrive Programme. Every aspect of the programme is important and, together, they build into a toolkit you can use to improve your life.
But knowing all this is not enough – YOU have got to put in the effort. PACE – Persistent and Continuous Effort is essential to success. Armed with the insights and knowledge gained through The Thrive Programme all you need to do is add determined effort and you are there. You must develop an ‘I don’t care what it takes, I am going to thrive’ attitude. The moment you have this attitude, everything gets easier.
Your target areas
- Build solid foundations – The foundations of thriving are a strong internal sense of power and control and increased self esteem. Look back to days 4 and 5 to read about these again.
- Reduce your desire for control – Your desire for control drives unhelpful thinking styles: brooding, catastrophising, etc.
How do you do this?
a) Build your internal sense of power and control – coping skills are vital
b) Learn to recognise your over-controlling thoughts and challenge them
c) Learn to tolerate challenging situations. Tell yourself “I can tolerate this, it is OK”
3. Reduce Your Social Anxiety
Remember that Social Anxiety is not happening to you, you create it and you can beat it!
4. Manage Your Unhelpful Thinking Styles
Look back at Day 7 for more information. Remember that they are caused by an external sense of power and control and your desire for control.
Blips and wobbles
By putting in persistent and continuous effort you will minimise blips. It is important, however, to remember that everybody has blips from time to time. Even people who are truly thriving have bad days and that is ok – we are all human after all. The important thing is managing your reaction to them.
You need to minimise the impact of a small wobble and not make it into something bigger that it really is. If you have a difficult situation/day, calm yourself down, reassure yourself, and take all necessary actions to get over it.
DO NOT focus on any blips, don’t wallow, don’t think “It’s not working”. There is no ‘it’ – you create these blips and you learn something more about yourself as you handle them.
Take Action
Now is the time to take action to ensure you are Thriving in 2017. At Thrive With Ian we will guide you through the following programmes, helping you learn all you need to know to Thrive:
- The main Thrive Programme – covering every aspect we have looked at, and much more.
- Thrive for teenagers – an adaption of the main programme aimed at teenagers and their specific needs
- Thrive as a Non -Smoker – Become a non smoker in as little as two sessions (92.5% success rate nationally)
- Fly Happy – Overcome your fear of flying
- Cure your emetophobia and Thrive – A revolutionary programme that teaches you to cure your emetophobia (fear of being sick). This serious phobia affects millions of people and severely impacts lives. There is currently no better help that Thrive.
All sessions are confidential and the first consultation is completely free and without obligation. The initial consultation gives you an opportunity to fully explore what The Thrive Programme will teach you and to ask any questions you may have.
Sessions are available in Liverpool or Wirral and also via SKYPE.
NEW YEAR OFFER
At this time of year many people need help with their New Years resolutions. To make this easier Thrive With Ian are pleased to offer a 20% discount on all Thrive courses booked and started between now and the end of February. This is sure to be a popular offer so be sure not to miss out – contact us now at: info@thrivewithian.com .
Well as we take down the Christmas decs, and make the annual trip to put them back in the loft, we come to the end of this series.
I hope you have found these articles interesting and informative. I look forward to hearing from you and wish you a very happy and thriving 2017.
Ian Crosswell – Thrive With Ian
Ian Crosswell
I’m Ian and I’m a qualified Thrive Programme Consultant. Using the professionally developed Thrive Programme – a proven, evidence based, positive psychology training programme – I work with people from all walks of life, providing the insights and skills they need to change their lives for the better.